Understanding Emotions in the School Environment

As students progress through school, especially in the upper years, emotions can become more complex. Homework, exams and SACs often bring pressure, leading to feelings of stress, anxiety, or frustration.

These emotions are completely normal, but they can impact a student's wellbeing and performance. It's important for parents to recognise the emotional toll academic demands can have.

Encouraging open conversations at home, helping students manage their time, and reminding them that doing their best is more important than being perfect can go a long way. By working together, (school, student and family) we can support their emotional health during these demanding times.

How Parents Can Gently Start a Conversation About Emotions

Opening up emotional conversations with your child can feel tricky, especially if they seem withdrawn or overwhelmed. The key is to create a safe, non-judgemental space and to approach the topic with warmth and patience.

Example: Gentle Conversation Starter for Parents

"Hey sweetheart, I know school’s been pretty full on lately with homework and everything. I just wanted to check in. How are you feeling about it all? You don’t have to have all the answers, but I’m here to listen if you want to talk."

This kind of message:

  • Acknowledges the pressure without adding more.
  • Keeps it open-ended and free from pressure.
  • Offers support rather than solutions.

Other Helpful Starters

  • "You’ve been working really hard lately. How’s it all feeling for you?"
  • "I remember Year 7 being a big shift. What’s been the best part so far? What’s been a bit tricky?"
  • "No matter what’s going on, you can always talk to me. Even if it’s just to vent."
  • "I’m proud of how you’re handling things. If there’s anything I can do to help, just let me know."

Tips for Parents

  • Pick a calm time: in the car, during a walk, or while doing something side-by-side.
  • Avoid interrupting or problem-solving too quickly.
  • Reassure them that their feelings are normal and valid.
  • Be patient. Sometimes kids need time to open up.

Mandy Barr, Joanne Devota-Rando and Sarah Quin
Counsellors